Someday is not a Day of the Week

                                           Someday is not a Day of the Week


            My kids sat looking at me with huge eyes. Here I was stopped in the middle of a children's book sobbing. "Someday is Not a Day of the Week", that book absolutely broke me. In the book each time the child asked to do something with his Mother, Father or Grandfather he was told "Someday". The book follows Max as he investigates the calendar and realizes that Someday is not one of the days listed, which means someday is not going to happen. 

            It is a simple book meant to stir parents into realizing they need to spend time now, and perhaps it chides parents for their busy and inaccurate answers to small children's ears. That is all well and good, but what if your an adult who's someday never came? What if you are a grown adult that only had the offers of tomorrow but no tomorrow materialized? What if your parent is already gone and you never got to the promised "someday"? I have more than one friend who have buried a parent that they never had that special relationship with. They were always waiting to feel the love, to be affirmed or to experience the parent/child relationship they know some people enjoy. This hits like a hammer, when time is up and you never had your SOMEDAY. Or when you are living everyday with the knowledge that despite your best efforts your parent will never respond to you how you need/want/wish for them to.

        This is a stifling hurt, it is a hurt that we tell ourselves we have "out grown", that we have "talked out", or that it doesn't "bother us anymore". In the words of another children's author Dr. Suess, "we say and say and say those words. We say them, but we lie them". After my friend's father passed away I wrote him a letter. I said these are things that are true about you, that your father should have told you, and I am sorry he never did, you are amazing. It was a nice gesture, but I am sure it did not stop his pain. 

        Why am I saying all this and perhaps bringing you down? I do it because "Someday is not a Day of the Week, and if you are waiting for your someday, if you need your someday, how are you going to do if your "someday" just never makes it to you? I know there are many of you out there who have deep parental hurt. Your day when that pain is lifted may come, but it also may not. Your parents may pass away without even saying or doing the things you so deeply need. 

        Do not live your entire life waiting for an identity or a stamp of approval that may never come. Live out of the approval, love, acceptance and identity you already have.

Neil Anderson has compiled the following lists that are true of you if you are in Christ. 

I AM ACCEPTED IN CHRIST

. I am God's child (John 1:12)

. I am Christ's friend ( John 15:15)

.I have been justified ( Romans 5:1)

. I am united with the Lord and one with him in spirit ( I Cor. 6:17)

. I have been bought with a price; I belong to God ( I Cor. 6:20)

. I am a member of Christ's body ( 1 Cor. 12:27)

. I am a saint ( Ephesians 1:1)

. I have been adopted as God's child ( Ephesians 1:5)

. I have direct access to God through the Holy Spirit ( Ephesians 2:18)

. I have been redeemed and forgiven from my sins ( Colossians 1:14)

. I am COMPLETE in Christ ( Colossians 2:10)

I AM SECURE IN CHRIST

.I am free forever from condemnation ( Romans 8:1-2)

. I am assured that all things work together for good (Romans 8:28)

.I am free from any condemning charges against me ( Romans 8:33-34)

. I cannot be separated from the love of God ( Romans 8:35, 38-39)

. I have been established, anointed, and sealed by God 9 2 Cor. 1:21-22)

. I am confident that the good work God has begun in me will be perfected ( Philippians 1:6)

. I am a citizen of heaven 9 Philippians 3:20)

. I am hidden with Christ in God ( Colossians 3:3)

. I have not been given the spirit of fear but of power, love, and self-discipline ( 2Timothy 1:7)

. I can find grace and mercy to help me in my time of need ( Hebrews 4:16)

. I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me ( 1 John 5:18)

I AM SIGNIFICANT IN CHRIST

. I am the salt and the light of the earth ( Matthew 5:13-14)

. I am a branch of the true vine, a channel of his life ( John 15:1,5)

. I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit  (John 15:16)

. I am a personal witness of Christ ( Acts 1:8)

. I am God's temple ( 1 Cor. 3:16)

. I am a minister of reconciliation ( 2 Cor. 5:17-20)

. I am God's coworker ( 2 Cor. 6:1)

. I am seated with Christ in heavenly realms ( Ephesians 2:6)

. I am God's workmanship ( Ephesians 2:10)

. I may approach God with freedom and confidence ( Ephesians 3:12)

.I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength ( Philippians 4:13)


        God completely loves and accepts you, he has gone to extraordinary lengths to know you and to build a future with you. He both loves and likes you and wants to spend time with you, everyday and for eternity. If you are a Christian, live from that, it is the only absolute acceptance you will find, and if you can wrap your mind around it, your will be able to stop waiting for your "someday' and enjoy TODAY. 




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